Happy Days

Lately I have been dealing with the challenge of raising two teenage girls... and having one young adult son who closely resembles a teen still living at home. For months I have stressed, argued, yelled. grounded, taken phones away, taken internet away... and still things never change.

I think the problem has been ME...   I have been given the job of raising these children.. God blessed me with them, they were very wanted and have always been so loved, And I know we are good parents. So the problem is my perception of things.

I forget they are growing up..I do not need to micro manage everything. I do not need to be controlling..  I have always felt I needed to be "in control" of things around here..

Leaving the worry about problems to God was the first step, I let it go.. I know between God, and my wonderful husband, we will be ok..  I am going to quit worrying so much about what my kids do and when, (well around the house... I will still worry about when they are away, or with the boyfriend... )

But I am going to try very hard to be a better mother, and try to be less "bossy".  I know they are old enough to do what is needed, If they don't I will tell them one time.. hopefully after a while it will sink in that things have to get done.

I am also trying to be a better wife..  Letting my husband know how much his hard work is appreciated..  Making sure he has a lunch daily, getting up and fixing him breakfast, making sure there is a dinner meal planned (even when I work nights) things that make his life easier.

Change is never easy, but life is much happier for me since I gave up worrying about whether the dishes got done, or the living room looks like a tornado hit it.. (Granted, older daughter's desk, chair, and bunch of stuff has been cluttering it up while she paints her room....)  But it's ok.. it will all work out.. As long as my husband, and children know they are loved and appreciated, that is my main concern.


Hopefully when I go back to work next week and start having that stress again, I can keep my mind set as it is.. I do so like being happier!